Monday, October 12, 2015

Letter to smudge: 3.5


Wow, sweetheart. This one really snuck up on me. How are you already 3.5? For some reason this is hitting me hard tonight as I know that tomorrow you will be closer to 4 than you are to 3. This makes me incredibly sad. I really am not sad on a day to day basis as I consider you getting older. It's just too much fun and so much reward (or so much of the monotony, routine, and stress) to get caught up in how sad it all is. But when I stop, when I have these moments...it overwhelms me. It's the same story every letter, right?

It's getting harder and harder to identify just a few favorite things. You have the fiercest, most powerful love and that translates into the absolute best hugs in the world. You have picked up on this fact and use it to your advantage on a regular basis. No one can turn down your hugs, no matter how they are feeling. For awhile you wouldn't let us kiss you before bed because you would cackle and say "kisses make me sweaty." I think this stemmed from me saying I shouldn't kiss you one day after I had exercised and then you were reinforced with lots of laughter when you repeated it. Daddy and I think you are so funny. You make us laugh every day.

Your attention to detail, while sometimes exasperating, is really interesting to watch. Your socks have to be put on at just the right angle; your clothes have to match in a particular way that only you understand; and you have very specific ways that you want to color and play games. I hope that points to adaptively high conscientiousness in adulthood but your current organization system for your belongings leads me to question this sometimes.

There's a funny thing about you that we haven't been able to figure out. One of the most common things we hear (from doctors, nurses, strangers, family of friends) is that people can tell that you are "just so smart". This is often hard for me to swallow because I know that intelligence isn't assessed in this manner and that toddler skills don't really translate incredibly well into academic success. Maybe it is just something that people say to parents to make them feel good but it happens at an alarming rate. To be clear, though, your dad and I think you are brilliant and adorable.

Your transition to the 3 year old class was rough. Your emotions got stronger. You got louder and yelled more. You got put in time out a lot at school. We were starting to get nervous when things just leveled out and seem more settled now. You mostly love going to school. You know your ABC song, can identify most letters, shapes, and colors. You are learning about various occupations and I love hearing your stories about your friends and teachers at the end of the day. I'm already thinking about you going to pre-k and how that seems so impossibly big and far from now.

Within the last week, your dad and I have looked at each other with knowing glances more than once as we begin to understand all of the grumblings about threenagers. For awhile we were thinking we might have actually missed this phase. While you have become more emotionally stable and rarely throw tantrums, you've definitely gotten more headstrong and curious about boundaries. You are persistent and demanding. Limits have become more difficult to enforce (but we know that's the time they're most important!). You also ask "why" about evvvvvvvverything. I love answering your genuine questions ("why does it get dark? why does the moon come out?") but I get frustrated when you ask why just to ask why ("I want a tomato." [hand you a tomato] "why did you give me a tomato?') all.day.long. But you know what? These are also qualities that I am so proud that you have. I want you to be intellectually curious. And headstrong. And persistent. You're going to be a force to reckon with one day. But man. It can be exhausting to parent.

I am so lucky that I get to spend lots of time with you. Sometimes this is rough on all of us and I certainly don't pretend to enjoy every moment. But I sure do enjoy a lot of them. I've recently started telling you at the end of the day how much fun I had and we each try to name our favorite part of the day or evening. I should probably start writing those down somewhere.

Some of your favorite things are sliding, coloring, being outside, and candy. You currently don't have a favorite show because you want to find every possible show on Netflix with each one more annoying than the last until we completely lose our minds. Your favorite books are Where's my mom? and Fancy Nancy. I love watching you 'read' them. You love to make up games for us to play and then instructing us on the rules as we go. The most recent games you made up were "Shimmer and Shine Play-Doh" which inexplicably involved pouring water out of a pink cup onto your leg in the bathtub and a game with dolls where we laid them all on the table and each took turns picking our 'team' of babies, putting them back and doing that over and over again. I love listening to your running commentary of what you're drawing, coloring, or playing. Your voice is the sweetest. Lately you also have been singing a lot. Your songs are right on trend as you perfect the art of the mash-up. A recent was "one little two little three little monkeys jumping on the bed. one fell off and jump up and down sit right back down little monkey." You like going to gymnastics and that we "get a special drink" (sonic slush) on the way home on some weeks.  You love Jasper and Madeline and have become so incredibly helpful and gentle with them. They both even seem to be starting to really love you.


Tonight we made half-birthday Halloween cookies. You thought this was the best idea ever and all of your play tonight centered on half birthdays and parties. You also kept saying "we don't make cake because we are out of eggs" and you were right. :)







Saturday, October 10, 2015

Tres médicos

Between the ear infection(s), the random febrile virus, and a regular pulmonology check-up, we have spent a lot of time in the company of medical professionals this week. We are so fortunate that A loves doctors and takes medication like a champ. Luckily, tomorrow is her last day on omnicef. Hooray! She even really surprised the doctor and nurse by saying she wanted a shot (more like she wanted the sticker and sucker!). She did really well with her flu vaccine, though and I am so glad I don't have to go through the hassle of scheduling yet another appointment. Hopefully we are set for awhile on visiting doctors. I do need to reschedule her dentist appointment, though...

On Friday, we went to her very favorite doctor, Dr. Droemer, in Tulsa. Their office was decorated for Halloween, which was very exciting and matched A's dress.



Sweet pea remains petite at 35.83 inches (2nd percentile) and 28.4 pounds (13th percentile). Her lungs sounded good and her ears were looking less inflamed. The pulmonologist recommended starting Flonase more regularly right now when she is coughing related to colds or allergies. He concurred that her ear tube was just hanging out in the canal. Over the past week, we have noticed that she is having significant difficulty hearing regular conversation, music, or television so we plan to take her to an ENT or audiologist to see if it was just the infection/congestion.










We like getting food that we can't get in Stillwater when we go to Tulsa. We had planned on going to a local place called Dilly Diner but at the last minute, decided that we really wanted Cracker Barrel. It was an excellent choice. And A ate an entire pancake and part of a grilled cheese sandwich. The doctor talked with us a bit about her eating (or mostly, lack thereof) and recommended he wasn't really concerned about her but that we might consider getting one of the "game" plates for her. I am not really a fan of things that reinforce the 'clean plate club' (though I think her new class does this; she often talks about making 'a happy plate') or using food as a reward (though we definitely do) but she would probably love this so we may try it.



She was really fighting sleep on the way home.
She lost.




This Cinderella light & sound wand is the most annoying toy we've ever had.
This morning we were excited to make it out to the Wondertorium for a fun birthday party with a very sweet (almost) 2-year-old. Such a cutie.




Friday, October 9, 2015

Celebrate! Commiserate!

This is my 300th post. I don't even know what to say about that. 300 posts later and I still don't really understand blogging or the friends and family who may read my random ramblings. 300 posts in and I still don't have a voice or a reason for writing other than a repository of memories and photos of A. I know that I haven't been updating as much lately. Since the last post, we have attended 3 adorable birthday parties (and I had a friend's birthday lunch and another friend's birthday dinner), one of my closest and dearest friends came to spend the weekend, I traveled out of town to give a research talk, I've attended or led more committee meetings than I can count, and read or sent hundreds of emails.

On Friday night we took A to Urgent Care because she was complaining of ear pain. She had a low grade fever related to a double ear infection. It appeared that one of her tubes had fallen out (no surprise given it was February 2013 that she got them) and the other ear tube was displaced and sideways in her ear canal. She seemed to respond really well to the Omnicef but on Sunday she spiked a fairly high fever (ranging from 102-104.8), complained of dizziness, refused to eat, and went to bed hours earlier than usual. However, on Monday morning she woke up happy and her temperature was 97.8. We hung out at home and were considering going to gymnastics but her temperature popped back up again. Tuesday was a repeat of the same so the pediatrician wanted to see her. She said she thought this was just a secondary virus so Chad stayed home with A on Wednesday and fortunately, her temperature stayed normal all day. Tomorrow we go to Tulsa for her pulmonology appointment.

In other tough news, the vet called us this afternoon to let us know that, after running more tests on Jasper last week, she is confident that he has Cushing's Disease. While some of his lab work was inconclusive, his presentation is prototypic--polydipsia, increased hunger and food scavenging, fatigue, increased urination, hair loss, thinning of the skin, etc. I have not hidden the fact that I have been incredibly frustrated with both dogs since having A and gaining more responsibilities at work while they become more dependent with increased medical needs. However, I do feel bad that he is struggling. We will be talking with the vet to determine our options (which likely will involve chemotherapy but may instead involve medication, surgery, or radiation) as Cushing's Disease seems to respond well to treatment and quality of life can be regained after a few months of the correct plan. Separately, I am going to attempt to think of things I can do to appreciate both dogs more often and to offer them extra love because they really have been a part of our family for so long.

Batman party at the park:












Fun mermaid surprise party, with special guest, Ariel (who A was obsessed with)!















Safari party at Lost Creek Safari:






 




































Urgent Care visit









 Sick days sweetness









Curly Sue