Monday, January 26, 2015

Thankful to be home

I haven't mentioned much about the Kind Spring challenge I'm participating in but today's seemed worth mentioning. Today's challenge was to "List 10 things you are grateful for."

"Research shows that individuals who regularly take the time to practice gratitude experience more positive emotions, sleep better, and express more compassion and kindness towards others. The simple act of writing down what we are grateful for is a powerful way to practice acceptance and honor life's blessings. "

I've done the gratitude posts in the past and as always, I am thankful for my family and friends and that I have such a good life (I still fight the urge to say blessed here).

1. My immediate family




2. My extended family and getting to live near my niece 

3. Getting to go to cool places through work. Albuquerque was really beautiful and the sun was so bright. 





4. Having really amazing colleagues. I've said a lot in the past about my current department and how happy I am in my program. However, I have really great colleagues, mentors, and friends around the country. Going to conferences gives me a chance to catch up with some of them and hear the amazing things they are doing. It also gives me a opportunity to hear their advice on various research and career decisions.  

5. Our house and being somewhere safe, with a short commute, and being close to A's awesome school. I am very happy to be back home and really enjoyed my day with A.

6. That things are calming enough that I'm cooking again. My favorite new recipe is creamy chicken and wild rice soup (as I've said before but seriously, everyone should make it. This week. You can use rotisserie or poached chicken. The lemon is not optional. I add mushrooms.). 

7. Beautiful skies and warm January weather


8. E-library. Have I mentioned this one enough? This week I downloaded an audiobook to listen to back/forth from the airport. I checked out an audiobook from my phone. Downloaded for free. From my public library. Months later and I'm still amazed by this.

9. Good students

10. Weekends. It has taken me awhile to be thankful for weekends again but this morning I sat quietly coloring with A while she prattled on about random things and was quite thankful.



The first video reminds me of something you would see on America's Funniest Home Videos. 




Thursday, January 22, 2015

January week 2

I am really trying to stay with consistent updates but now that Christmas is over, I'm struggling without themes. Haha. 


This week focused less on the January Cure and more on survival, having fun, and packing for my work trip (I leave today for ABQ). I did clean out the drawers in our laundry room but I think that may have been my only organizational success this week.






We had Christmas with the Lawsons, which was a lot of fun. 















We played. 


Though she is getting particular about when you can document her fun. I do love her mad face.















We had lots of snuggles. 




And A tried to convince me to take her with me. Until she heard she was going to see Aunt Kris on Saturday. Then she was fine with me leaving. 

A is also having good success with potty learning this week but I will spare y'all the details other than to say that she seems ready and that despite it being not bad so far, I despise it. I'm trying to see it as continued exposure to messes and imperfection. Fortunately, her teachers at school are amazing and she is really mostly learning there. 

Sunday, January 11, 2015

January Week 1

We are 11 days into the new year but really are just finishing up the first week. You can tell life has been slow if these are the kinds of gems I have been pondering. My semester starts again tomorrow. I have a course release so my only class is the clinical supervision course. I will have a lot of research and clinic meetings (as well as departmental) but I am looking forward to not having to grade. Speaking of grading, I need to finish the last assignment for the online class which wrapped up on Friday. This class was not a success. Hopefully the one in the summer will be better.

Yesterday, I made an attempt at toddler braids. They don't look terrible from the front.


Kind of a mess in the back, though. I need more practice.


We have had fun this week, primarily with me watching A "make grandma's birthday cake" (out of building blocks, mittens, balls, whatever). 

I have been terribly excited about continuing to organize and A has been helping some with that as well (she loves carrying things to the trash or recycling). Tuesday's assignment was to "set up an outbox"--also known as a clutter collector. The purpose of this is to put items in a "holding pattern" to see if you are ready to let them go. I catch myself often hanging on to items I rarely or never use because in the moment, it's generally faster to make the decision to keep it rather than donate or trash it. I have a box set up in our guest room for this purpose. Wednesday was to purge the pantry, which I fortunately had already done the previous week (along with the refrigerator and freezer). I'm still working on it a bit but it is coming along. I am really addicted to these interdesign bins and boxes. I need more of them for both freezers. I may use one to help organize my baking supplies.



Thursday involved picking a project that would take approximately 10 minutes and would make me feel better whenever I saw it. I decided to tackle the master bathroom drawers, which have not been organized since we lived here. So much junk had accumulated. Now everything is all clean.


This weekend's goal was the rest of the kitchen. I had already cleared out our tupperware drawer. Saturday I focused on clearing out all of the drawers, thinning out our over supply of dish rags, and organizing. I threw away massive numbers of expired spices and have boxed our old dish towels and am trying to determine if they should be kept for cleaning rags or donated (outbox!).



One of my least favorite spaces in the kitchen is where we keep our medicine. Until we figure out a better solution, I organized them into ours vs. A's medicine and put the commonly used ones in the front. It is much tidier than before so I think that will even relieve a bit of stress!


I am going to purchase a lazy susan for our spices and I may move Chad's coffee into this cabinet. I was glad to get everything on the top shelf sorted out (more baking supplies).


In terms of the kitchen, I still need to scour the sink and order a corner bookshelf for our cookbooks. Over the last month I have finished some other projects that I imagine won't be part of this challenge so I'll share here. 

I have mentioned to a number of people that our house borders on looking like a toy store explosion (maybe one day I will share the before photos). We had 250 colorful balls in a trash bag in the master closet along with a toy lawnmower and bowling pins; in our bedroom a dump truck full of legos, a doll stroller, a tunnel, and a child-sized lawn chair hung out against the wall. I had arts and craft supplies shoved onto a shelf in our game closet and lots of toys busting out of our coat closet. Our living room would be wall to wall toys if we let A have her way since she loves to pile all of her toys in one place and remove everything that belongs in one place and shove it somewhere else, and you can understand why I would be happy to be organizing.
This is the odd way in which A plays
I worked on clearing off two shelves in our game closet so that I could put all of the larger toys that typically were in the living room under the end table, in her closet, or by my bed. I moved all of the arts and supplies into a shoe organizer on the door (thank you, Pinterest...!) and was able to fit her larger toys along the floor on the bottom of the closet.


There are still some toys in the coat closet but I also better organized that and used an additional shoe organizer to store winter accessories for the family.


Embarrassingly, we had with a massive number of plastic bags shoved in the laundry room and in A's dresser. We reuse them, especially for trash in her room, but I still feel guilty I haven't moved to reusable bags for grocery shopping yet. This picture definitely reminds me that I should (am I the last to do this? I need recommendations). I took approximately 25 bags and rolled them into an old diaper wipes container so they dispense and are tidy. I folded about 100 more bags into triangles and stored in a shoe box. I put the rest in a large bag in my trunk and will drop them off at the grocery store or recycling center soon.


That's right, I will fold grocery bags but not laundry.
In terms of reviewing how well I have done this past week (because I like to analyze and grade) overall, my performance has been widely variable. I have not limited my screen time effectively in the evenings, A's bedtime is still too late, I have only been on the treadmill once, and I continue to go to bed really late. My writing was hit or miss last week. We got a manuscript R&R but we also got a rejection (that we have since resubmitted elsewhere). I worked on the approach for the grant coming due soon but I was also distracted a lot. We have not scheduled a date night. So, not great. That said, clearly I'm engaged in this organizational challenge (I'm also participating in a kindness challenge which is a story for another blog) but not stressing over folding laundry, I am using RescueTime, continuing to schedule my tasks on Sunday nights, I didn't work on Wednesday or Friday evenings, I am working on mindless eating and making better choices (I've stayed within my calories most every day, had limited snacking, and not had any soda), and I finished my two books already this month (one selected by the book club I'm in and another recommended by my TA). So those are good things in a variety of areas. My major goals this week are to--submit the approach to the grant consultant and submit the entire draft to the stats consultant, prep for the beginning of the semester, call for appointments for A to get a hair cut and teeth cleaned, and clean & organize the laundry room (which is going to be a big job).

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

January Cure Day 2: Plan the Cure

Today's assignment was to walk around the entire house, making a list of projects in each room. The next step is to highlight the ones that would make the biggest impact and are feasible. Fortunately, they were clear that not everything will be completed this month but instead to look at it as a master plan of short and long term goals. Thank goodness because I already am lacking in sleep and this list is ridiculous!! Big ones we will be highlighting (that I would like to tackle this month) are finding a new place for the cookbooks, cleaning out the laundry and kitchen cabinets, and  cleaning out the linen closet. 

Monday, January 5, 2015

January Cure Task 1

I feel like something is missing now that I'm not posting every day (don't worry, it won't be daily again)! At the same time, life has been fairly uneventful (this is a good thing). I mentioned that one of my goals for the year was to complete a month-long organizational challenge so I signed up for the January Cure. The assignment this weekend was to clean the floors (another part was to get fresh flowers but Chad is allergic. I'm thinking of getting a mini-terrarium though). Cleaning floors of course, necessitated finding floors in some rooms. :)



The house is capable of looking clean when the toddler is at school and the husband is running errands. 

Knowing that the semester is beginning has prompted me to reorganize a number of things including our coat closet, game closet, and pantry and refrigerator. I think those will all come later in the challenge and they may have other things I can do to make it even better so I'll hold off on showing those photos. 

Not much else is new. I'm excited about OSU having heat to go in to work tomorrow! 


Thursday, January 1, 2015

2015 Performance Review

(Amber, you probably shouldn't read this post. I know it stresses you out when I set goals or talk about productivity)
Smudge resolves to be happy and make everyone around her happy.
'Tis the season for New Years Resolutions. If resolutions are your thing and you're interested in a great resource for helping you stick with them, using evidence-based techniques, there was a really helpful Time article with tips! I mentioned two years ago that I've never been a big fan of making resolutions. I've seen some great ones going around this week related to parenting, work, or fitness (this one is the funniest one and perhaps closer to my reality). I feel myself getting sucked into wanting to make them--of course I want/need to lose weight, destress, unplug, be healthy, etc. I am not interested in micromanaging my life or setting goals I know I won't reach but I know that I do better with a plan. I like my Sunday meetings for work. I love meal planning. These are the things (along with patience and divine intervention!) that have helped me keep things together over the last year. I have 8,760 hours this year (well more like 8,739). That is a lot of time to play with when put in that perspective.

There was one line in Vanderkam's work resolutions article that stood out to me. "Try writing next year's performance review now." So where do I want to be at the end of this year? Much like I did in 2013 and more recently when reading 168 hours and after considering Dr. Psych Mom's analysis of our schedule, I want to focus on my values and moving toward those. Looking back at my 2013 post was actually pretty encouraging because I had hit several of them (I cook 5 nights a week, eat lunches from home at least occasionally during the week, and did reduce my Facebook usage at work. Obviously we also got A to sleep in her crib). It's been 2 years and I only did the workout DVD twice so that was not as successful (though it is finally out of the shrink-wrap). We never made it through the Baked books. In fact, I still haven't even finished looking through the third and fourth ones.

Thinking about these common values has lead me to these goals for 2015. Some of the outcomes are more easily measured than others. It was clearly easier to think about a performance review for professional instead of personal goals.

Family, Parenting, & Intimate/Social Relations
  • Be more present in relationships. Put down my phone from 6-7 and 8-9pm. 
  • Call a friend at least once per week. 
  • Go to dinner or a movie with Chad once per month.
  • Start getting A ready for bed by 8:45pm.
  • Do not do any work on Wednesday nights.

Work
  • Submit 2 grants
  • Attend 3-4 national conferences (with submitted oral presentations)
  • Submit 7 manuscripts (as well as revise/resubmit the 4 manuscripts which are currently under review, hopefully with an opportunity to revise where they are now but if not, to new outlets)
  • Catch up on clinical note signing
  • Submit journal reviews by the day before they are due (I've already messed this one up this week)
  • Continue with Sunday night meetings, protecting writing time, and using the RescueTime web app

Personal Growth, Spirituality, Recreation, Physical Well-being
  • Stop glorifying busy
  • Find a church (after flu season) 
  • Go to bed by midnight at least 3 nights per week
  • Run on the treadmill or go to the gym 3 days per week
  • Read Savor and begin to eat less mindlessly
  • Participate in an organizational challenge but also give myself a break about laundry piling up. I don't like it and folding it right away (...or days/weeks later) really doesn't matter
  • Read 15 books
  • Write 4 blogs/month
  • Enjoy my puppies

I feel a little hesitant seeing it all written out. It feels like a lot and we know that spreading our resources thin are a sure fire way to fail. Maybe I should have just stuck with don't always eat nutella straight out of the jar; put it on toast sometimes.